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Monday, July 10, 2006

Bye Bye Baby

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She is pregnant, and doesn't know who the father is.

She finally told me. She asked me for help.

I cried, I scolded, I debated letting her reap what she sowed. But then I saw that I had a chance to help her turn her life around.

Turn her into the good wife and mother that I know she can be.

I promised to help her end her baby's life, in exchange for hers.

1 year of therapy and me watching her every move. She agreed.

God give me the strength to make the right decisions and her the self esteem to build her morals and values.
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“Only a kind person is able to judge another justly and to make allowances for his weaknesses. A kind eye, while recognizing defects, sees beyond them.”
Lawrence G. Lovasik

18 Comments:

  • At July 10, 2006 1:00 AM, Blogger Papillona ® said…

    Oh..

     
  • At July 10, 2006 2:26 AM, Blogger Extinct Dodo said…

    need help with the abortion?

     
  • At July 10, 2006 9:40 AM, Blogger U.E. said…

    This is the most tragic post I have ever read. :(

    I can only hope it's an incredibly screwed up piece of creative writing.

     
  • At July 10, 2006 10:28 AM, Blogger CyberRowdy(Q8TechDrive) said…

    really tough...

     
  • At July 10, 2006 10:51 AM, Blogger Closet Diva said…

    I don't mean to preach, but abortion is haram. As hard as it is, she should keep the baby. Maybe her husband is the father?

     
  • At July 10, 2006 12:17 PM, Blogger Papillona ® said…

    Hi Miya,

    I couldn't sleep last night. I was thinking of your friend ('cause I'm just being me - a constant worrier). When I read your post I was quite shocked and speechless. I hate to say that, but I judged your friend for her infedility. Everyone judges issues of privacy from their own personal perspective. Everyone judges, even YOU judge yourself sometimes.

    However, I don't know what your friend has gone through for her to be in that tough situation now. Hence, no one has the right to judge her or you. I want to be helpful so this is going to be a long comment:

    Now, as a friend, you should always be supportive and that's what you're doing. If I were in your shoes, Miya, I would have done the same. I'd help her out of love and that she has finally asked for help, has shared her problem, I can not disappoint her. She should be in a supportive situation and that's what you're doing.

    If you read the comments. Personally, I say "haram" is not what we should consider now. If I were in her place, I'd choose abortion. Why? Because it is the best choice I can make. Best for the unborn baby, best for her husband and the other man. In her case, it is the only option. And it is her right to choose abortion for the termination of the unwanted pregnancy. Why keep the baby when there's a huge chance it's not her husband's child? Will she be able to live comfortably if she keeps the baby? I don't think anyone could..

    I hope both of you will get through this. People make mistakes. We all have done huge mistakes in our life. We live, we learn even if it was the hardest way..

    Good luck

    *Sorry about the long comment.

     
  • At July 10, 2006 2:53 PM, Blogger Dr.Lost said…

    abortion? i wont even go into religion, but ethically its basically unethical.. no matter what.. im sorry for bein this way but im just so against abortion.. who r we 2 take ppl's lives? ok i might wanna post about abortion now ;p but seriously im sorry i cant support ur ddecision, not judging u at all, its none of my business, but all im sayin is that i wudnt do what u wanna do.. becoz i cant live with the guilt of having taken a soul.. allah iy3een ur friend.. and u're a great person for standing by her no matter what, i respect that.

     
  • At July 10, 2006 9:45 PM, Blogger NuNu™ said…

    As I can see, Your friend's situation is really tough..
    So as a friend you should be supportive and I would so definitely go with the abortion!

     
  • At July 11, 2006 6:04 AM, Blogger dishevelled said…

    Erm, abortion is not haram if it's done before the fourth month because that's when ey9eer fee roo7...

     
  • At July 11, 2006 6:21 PM, Blogger MiYaFuSHi said…

    Dodo: As of yet I am not sure, since she has been avoiding me. But thanks, I will let you know.

    UE: I am sadistic, but not screwed up.

    Cyber: Definately

    CD: You think that a girl who is cheating on her husband cares if it is haram? And even if she did care? you would rather she have a baby and live the rest of her life lying to her husband, and both their families about who the father is? that is if she finds out.

    At the end of the day, it is her decision. Not mine, not yours, not anyones but hers.

    Pap: I am so sorry I caused you to worry. I literally found out the news an hour before I posted, and was in a state of shock.

    I am sure every person who read this post judged both her and me. Since there is a mathal that goes al6iyoor 3ala ashkaliha 6aga3. I am not nor have a tried to defend her or myself. I know what I am. And I know what she is.
    As to me judging her...I did..and that is why I was going to wash my hands off of her. But I couldn't.
    And I think I made the right decision. She needs help.

    I agree with you an your view of abortion in this circumstance. However, she has made the decision. It has nothing to do with me. Cause none of us, not even me, will ever be able to know what it feels like to be in her shoes. And I thank God for that.

    Thank you pap :)

    Dr.Lost: First of all, it was not in any way my decision. The decision was made before I even heard about it. Second of all, I am not sure the fetus has life in it within 2 weeks. Third of all, try to really put yourself in her shoes and her husbands and imagine 20 years from now. Then tell me how you feel.

    Anyhow, I am not here to discuss rights and wrongs of abortion. I am here because I am literally sick to my stomach with worry over her.

    nunu: Thank you.

    dishevelled: That was what I always thought. Not sure if it is true or not though. Do you have any solid resources?


    Thank you everyone for your comments and concern. This has sort of turned into a discussion of the rights and wrongs of abortion. Which it is not.

    SHE has made that decision. It's a done deal.

    I have made the decision to stand by her. To help build her self esteem until she knows she is better than this.

     
  • At July 11, 2006 11:42 PM, Blogger ZinZinQ8 said…

    no comment on the girl...Alla yahdeeha wighafirlaha...

    but as for you, you show so much so much so much love that I cannot help but admire your capacity for it.

     
  • At July 12, 2006 12:52 AM, Blogger Delicately Realistic said…

    Desperate times call for desperate measures my friend.

     
  • At July 12, 2006 1:33 AM, Blogger Dr.Lost said…

    miya: ok hon calm down, second of all, i cant put myself in her shoes coz i obviously have no idea what she's goin thru.. im just shocked by what happens these days.. who am i 2 judge anyways.. bas i was just tryin 2 say that yes u shud support her, but i dunno, i just get really angry whenever i hear that someone had an abortion.. for a million and 6 different reasons.. nevermind, im sorry if i pissed u off in anyway, i didnt mean that it was ur idea, im sure it wasnt, hope u get what i mean.. its a sad story w allah iy3eenha..

     
  • At July 12, 2006 1:35 AM, Blogger Dr.Lost said…

    when i said ur decision, the reason i said it was coz u said: "I promised to help her end her baby's life, in exchange for hers." in ur post.. so u can see now why i said what i said, get what im sayin girl?

     
  • At July 13, 2006 10:45 AM, Blogger *-fwai7-* said…

    miya, you did the right thing. i would have been hesitant to help at first but in the long run your help and support is gonna make a huge difference.
    and with the people talking about 7aram ma 7aram, yes ok it is 7aram, but wouldn't it be more 7aram to put a woman in a situation where her marriage life is jeopardized? and 7aram to give birth to a child who doesn't exactly know who their father is? we don't need to turn this situation into a maury povich episode; its best if she gets an abortion, especially since the child ma lah roo7, so its not really killing a nafs. this woman needs all the support she can get.

    keep us updated miya :) you're a true friend walla.

     
  • At July 13, 2006 11:24 AM, Blogger MiYaFuSHi said…

    ZinZin: Thank you:) That means a lot to me.

    DR: Can't get more desperate than this I guess.

    DR. Lost: Sorry I didnt mean to sound pissed off. I just wanted to clarify that it was not my decision. My comment in the post,meant I would help her through it and help make her a better person.

    fwai7: Thank you. What you said it true.


    UPDATE: She wants to make 100% sure that she is pregnant which should be in a few days. Then she will be taking some pills for the abortion.

    Also, she avoided me at first, no doubt afraid of the bashing, but is now on the hunt for a gym for us to join together. Which from what I understood is so she spends more time with me and avoids getting bored. It will mean I have to leave my beloved gym for her, but oh well. I am so happy she is taking that step.

     
  • At July 13, 2006 12:35 PM, Blogger The Krispy Dixie said…

    Wow... this is a difficult situation...

    On the issue of abortion, its a personal dicision although I'm not sure I would condone it in this case. There should be some sort of retribution for what she's done.

    As for you, I don't think I've ever witnessed such compassion and empathy in my life. You are a wonderful friend.

    Where most people would walk away, you have chosen to stay...

    and that, in and of itself, is admirable.

    Best of luck to you and your friend. :) allah i3eenha inshalla oo yahdeeha..

     
  • At July 15, 2006 3:33 PM, Blogger Honey™ said…

    i think you are doing the right thing ,,

     

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