Wanna B my V??

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Valentines Day is looming, reminding me loud and clear of my status.

First of all, for those of you who don't know, I am single. I have also been single for a while, and it is a conscious decision. The reasons for that decision are:

1. I needed time to myself.
2. I wanted to spend time figuring out exactly what I wanted from a significant other.
3. I wanted to work on Miya, my physical and emotional self.
4. I was sick of men.
5. I wanted to give myself the freedom to meet different people and socialize.

What I can say, is that I did not think I would be single for as long as I have been. Since I have always loved the comfort of a relationship*. But while working on the above points I have found that I really truly am enjoying my single life and have learnt a lot of new things about myself and life. Some things are:

- I am able to depend on myself completely with nobody to help me make decisions, or console me when I have a problem.

- I have more time and energy for friendships. In fact, I made many many new friends and developed deeper relationships with the friends that I had, making me appreciate friendship much much more than I used to.

- I used to expect too much from my friends, and now take disappointments caused by them with a grain of salt. Everyone is different.

- The better care you take care of your body, the more it will take care of your mind.

- If you respect yourself in your actions and spoken words, people will be forced to respect you too.

- Neither money nor good looks nor a badboy nor a family name, are enough for me in a person. I need a real man with intelligence and character. Mama's boys are out too.

- I have also learnt that no matter how happy you are in your single life, sometimes you need a special someone to give you a hug and let you know everything is ok. A good alternative I have found is, your friends, although they're not as fulfilling.

So anyway, I am happy with my progress, I now know exactly what I want in my significant other and I think I am ready emotionally to start the final relationship of my life, once I meet the right person.

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(What prompted me to finally finish writing this post, was the looming decision I have to make. I was sitting there thinking about my dilemma and grabbed the pretty notebook, which I have had for over 2 years and never used cause it is was just too damn pretty, and found the only note I ever wrote there. It was for a plan for a valentines day long gone and never put into practice. I thought I would share it with you and maybe one of you can enjoy it :)

Bean bag

Hershey Kisses

Fireworks

Drinks

Blanket

To be enjoyed together at the end of sunset on a balcony.

HAPPY PLANNING PEOPLE !!!

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*To me a relationship should last a maximum of 4 months before an engagement is necessary. By engagement I mean, the guy has to ask the girls family for her hand in marriage. Why do I think that? Because it is respectful for the girl and the family to do so.

I do not agree with Gf/Bf relationships that last years on end due to stupid excuses, then break up over a silly fight. 4 months is more than enough to tell if you want to marry the other person. After that, you get engaged and can spend a few more months or even years getting to know each other better, with your families consent. That way you respect yourself, your families and your significant others.